I spent many days on the Lakota Rosebud reservation in South Dakota and the Northern Cheyenne reservation in Montana. My father was a classic liberal in the Kennedy tradition. He graduated from college with a degree in journalism and was plagued with the guilt of giving up his dreams of saving the world when he took a corporate job to support his family.
I was around 12 when my father sat me and my siblings down and asked us if we wanted to move out west. Well, of course we did. We lived in flat, dreary, grey Ohio. We didn't fit in. We were from NY, we never blended with the local Methodists. We were Catholics, loud, Irish democrats, in a county that was 90% protestant republicans. We thought cowboys were exotic, and we had no real ties to Ohio, it's where my father's job forced us to live.
He explained that we would be poor. We thought we were poor. Though my father earned a comfortable living, he grew up through the depression, and he was very very frugal. What he didn't save, he gave to migrant farm workers, the catholic church, the socialist party and whatever charity topped his cause of the moment.
My father wanted to do for the native children, what he had done as a young adult in NY city. He worked with gangs and at risk and drug addicted youth. He coached athletics, he counseled, he kept kids off the streets and out of trouble. He wanted to do something similar for Indians. Tutor, mentor, coach the kids, and give them a chance at an education and a future that involved choices other than welfare on the reservations. If he was able to create this job for himself, his salary would have been a fraction of what he earned as a corporate hack.
He started writing proposals that he sent to tribal chiefs. He started writing grants to fund his own future employment. He did all this while maintaining fulltime employment as a Public Affairs director for a major oil company. He got to the point where his passion conflicted with his obligations to his employer, and the family started taking the steps necessary to make a major life change.
We put the house in Ohio for sale. We started spending our summers in Montana and South Dakota, where the two tribes that seemed most interested in my father's proposal were located. My parents eventually settled on Montana and the Northern Cheyenne tribe. He was going to work for the local catholic church, running a youth program. We were waiting for our house to sell and for several grants to be awarded.
This was a process that extended over two years. During the summers and vacations we spent in Montana, we became friends with the children our own age. We loved our Montana summers.
My father had given his employer notice and we were in the final stages of making a nearly 2000 mile move when my father sat us down one day and said we would not be moving. The job my father modeled and found funding for was rolled out, only they didn't give it to him, they gave it to a tribal member.
We were all sad, Montana is an incredibly beautiful place. We liked the people and the landscape. I felt sorry for my father, who worked hard to make this dream of his a near reality. It didn't take me long to realize that the tribe did the right thing. My father was bringing his white catholic values, which are not necessarily bad, to a group of people that were fighting, incredibly hard, to hold onto their cultural identity. The catholic church had stripped them of their native religion. The catholic schools imposed catholic values at the expense of embracing native religions and spirituality. Why not select a mentor for these children that was a native and of their tribe.
On this the eve of Thanksgiving, the day we celebrate conquering this rich beautiful land that belonged to others, thousands of years before visited by the first European settler, reminds me that celebrating this holiday is incredibly insensitive. I'm thawing my turkey and peeling the potatoes and serving up an obnoxious sized feast, because I'm expected to, but if I was true to my own conscious, I'd boycott this holiday, just like I should boycott Christmas. I have some work to do.

I was around 12 when my father sat me and my siblings down and asked us if we wanted to move out west. Well, of course we did. We lived in flat, dreary, grey Ohio. We didn't fit in. We were from NY, we never blended with the local Methodists. We were Catholics, loud, Irish democrats, in a county that was 90% protestant republicans. We thought cowboys were exotic, and we had no real ties to Ohio, it's where my father's job forced us to live.
He explained that we would be poor. We thought we were poor. Though my father earned a comfortable living, he grew up through the depression, and he was very very frugal. What he didn't save, he gave to migrant farm workers, the catholic church, the socialist party and whatever charity topped his cause of the moment.
My father wanted to do for the native children, what he had done as a young adult in NY city. He worked with gangs and at risk and drug addicted youth. He coached athletics, he counseled, he kept kids off the streets and out of trouble. He wanted to do something similar for Indians. Tutor, mentor, coach the kids, and give them a chance at an education and a future that involved choices other than welfare on the reservations. If he was able to create this job for himself, his salary would have been a fraction of what he earned as a corporate hack.
He started writing proposals that he sent to tribal chiefs. He started writing grants to fund his own future employment. He did all this while maintaining fulltime employment as a Public Affairs director for a major oil company. He got to the point where his passion conflicted with his obligations to his employer, and the family started taking the steps necessary to make a major life change.
We put the house in Ohio for sale. We started spending our summers in Montana and South Dakota, where the two tribes that seemed most interested in my father's proposal were located. My parents eventually settled on Montana and the Northern Cheyenne tribe. He was going to work for the local catholic church, running a youth program. We were waiting for our house to sell and for several grants to be awarded.
This was a process that extended over two years. During the summers and vacations we spent in Montana, we became friends with the children our own age. We loved our Montana summers.
My father had given his employer notice and we were in the final stages of making a nearly 2000 mile move when my father sat us down one day and said we would not be moving. The job my father modeled and found funding for was rolled out, only they didn't give it to him, they gave it to a tribal member.
We were all sad, Montana is an incredibly beautiful place. We liked the people and the landscape. I felt sorry for my father, who worked hard to make this dream of his a near reality. It didn't take me long to realize that the tribe did the right thing. My father was bringing his white catholic values, which are not necessarily bad, to a group of people that were fighting, incredibly hard, to hold onto their cultural identity. The catholic church had stripped them of their native religion. The catholic schools imposed catholic values at the expense of embracing native religions and spirituality. Why not select a mentor for these children that was a native and of their tribe.
On this the eve of Thanksgiving, the day we celebrate conquering this rich beautiful land that belonged to others, thousands of years before visited by the first European settler, reminds me that celebrating this holiday is incredibly insensitive. I'm thawing my turkey and peeling the potatoes and serving up an obnoxious sized feast, because I'm expected to, but if I was true to my own conscious, I'd boycott this holiday, just like I should boycott Christmas. I have some work to do.
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